How to Flirt with a Guy

You probably already know this but there's one thing that's making it hard for most people (especially ladies) to get his attention. Have you ever tried that? You went gaga over what clothes to wear, research on his interests, act like you are interested with what he's interested in... it's pathetic. Really. Trust me girl, it is.

Why am I saying this?

Five years ago Lester was a co-teacher I was "hanging out with" (you know, buddy-buddy) but it all went on quite different in the end. Why? I knew I was interested in him, I did all the "tactics" needed but it only made me feel like I'm trying too hard in the end, especially when 3 years later, still nothing happens.

We still hang out with the other guys for beer (duh!).
And not even with his big brown eyes has he looked at me with attraction, even when he's drunk.

Desperate, I know. But here are some tips and advice that I share to you so you can get his attention. ;)

How to Flirt with a Guy Over Text

It may seem like you're shy at first, but you have to take action! You might be conservative, that's understandable and I respect that. But if you're like me and you have spent 3 years waiting to no avail, then you should give up wearing that cloak 'cos it doesn't work!

Don't be afraid that he may think you're cheap, as long as you don't act on it cheaply you'll soon get his attention. ;)

Ask for his phone number. It doesn't have to be a cheesy permission, you don't have to make it obvious what your real intention is! Just ask for his number, pretend like asking it "in case I'll forget the results for the exams", "in case I don't have someone to come with me during NBA finals" or just in case there's something I need help with.

This first step is really easy! Trust me, you'll ask it and he won't bother.

Flirty Text Messaging

Warning: You shouldn't go flirting right away! You don't want to scare him away with your you know what, I like you's, guys don't like that! No, guys are afraid of commitment, especially if they know that the girl's really emotional. They want to "try" it first, before actually tying themselves with someone freakishly obsessed!

So what should you do first? Connect.

Make a connection before you even try to freak him out with the brutal honesty that is your emotion.

You need to learn how to connect with him first. So how is this done?

Of course you will not be asking him about his interests right away, you might need to do more trial and error in order to get him to tell you what his interests are. If you know a bit about him you might already have an idea about what kind of questions to ask.

For example, you can as him if he saw the biggest basketball event of the season last week. Who knows, he might be interested in basketball?

You can also try to ask him is he's interested in movies because you have some spare in CDs at home (spare CDs or whatever).

When I met Lester what I did was I told him about me going gaga over the WWE, which was actually true (I'm a big fan of wrestling) and it turned out that he was interested in too. I wasn't too lucky don't because it came with a lot of trial and error before I finally found our common denominator.

So was there a big secret? Not really.

As what I have just mentioned, you just need to find your common denominator

If you think that there is nothing in common with the both of you, try to know more about his interests by asking about with his friends. It will be a huge plus if you both have mutual friends so you can know them or ask them, which might be the key to knowing his interests as well

How to Flirt with a Really Hot Guy

So how do you attract a hot guy? Be hot yourself!

You might be asking: Laura, how in the world am I going to attract a hot guy when I'm not hot-- no, I can't be hot!

What's hot anyway? You just have to be confident! Don't you ever doubt your power to attract guys. Don't doubt your power to communicate with other people.

Project yourself like you would if you're in front of your friends, just be you! You're only not hot because of your limited beliefs, but if you stretch out the possibilities, the world is on your plate.

This is something I've learned from Michael Fiore. For more information, take a look at this video about Michael Fiore entitled "How to Make Him Desire You".